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 The importance of thanking your helper.

10/20/2015

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 This story is too good to let go. I shared the earlier part on the 14th.

The UK woman who was sexually assaulted on a bus launched an online Facebook appeal to find the man who stepped up and faced her attacker.

The 30 year-old writer and filmmaker, was aboard a 207 bus in London when a man grabbed her. A fellow passenger defended her.

She wrote on a Facebook post:
“To the man on the 207 bus towards Acton last night (the tall, dark, and dapper one with the beard)

“Thank you for saying something when that man grabbed me. Thank you for insisting that it was not acceptable."

“Most of all, thank you for asking him about the women in his life, his mother, his sister... You said, “She could be your sister. She is someone's sister”, and in doing so you made me a person. You made us a community.

“Please, let's all endeavour to 'say something', please share, and please help me find this awesome dude so I can buy him a pint!”


Now, she has tracked down a man who defended her and shared a photo of her beside the man who stood up for her on the bus.

“Last night, I got to meet and thank this Good Samaritan and all round awesome dude - Firat!” she wrote on Facebook.
She went on to thank all those who had shared her story, as well as the Metropolitan Police.

“Most of all, I am grateful the many who shared their own stories. In this way, the post went far beyond one person speaking out for another in the microcosm of a 207 bus towards Acton.

“It became an international and intersectional discussion. For that, Firat and I agreed, we are both very thankful
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She went on to urge others to “follow Firat’s lead” and stand up against sexual harassment. Source: Independent.

It is important to thank someone when they help you. The connection gives a sense of completion.

I don't remember ever being at risk of injury, although I feared the seedy side of the London streets when I first arrived in 1987 all alone. I'd heard of attacks on women on the underground. After living in my home country of Australia for all of my 45 years, I was not prepared for danger.

However, I never faced a threat.

I helped other women with their pushchairs up and down the steep underground stairs. They thanked me. I spoke to other women about trivial matters while waiting for a train. An open, friendly countenance does wonders for the way we are treated.

If anybody does something for me, my immediate response is to thank them. But why is this so important to us? I think it goes beyond the early lessons we are taught. It's a basic response, coming deep from the heart.
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Why do YOU need to thank a person who has helped you in some way?

9 Comments
Leanne link
10/20/2015 03:15:52 am

I love feel good stories like these. I've never been in a situation like the one she faced, but I'd like to think that there would be good people who would intervene and not look the other way. I'd also like to think that I might be one of those people!

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Alana link
10/20/2015 03:27:55 am

I have depended so much on the help of others these last few months - I try to thank them all but don't. This will serve as another reminder. Thank you, Francene.

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Laurel Regan link
10/20/2015 07:03:34 am

It really is important to thank people. Unfortunately so many times we remember to complain, but forget to thank! Love this inspirational story - thank you for sharing.

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K.Lee Banks link
10/20/2015 10:21:25 am

Oh, how great she got to meet him and turn it into the opportunity to encourage others to follow his lead!

I have tried to make gratitude and thankfulness a part of everyday life based on my upbringing, but also because of a quote I read a few years back. It said something like what if the only things left in your life today, are the things you thanked God for yesterday?

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Keesha link
10/20/2015 10:50:05 am

Unfortunately gratitude is not something that always happens spontaneously. People always forget to say thanks. I am guilty of this sometimes myself. Thanks for the reminder to always be grateful Francene. And to always SAY something to let the other person know that we are appreciative.

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Barbara Bianchi link
10/20/2015 05:08:09 pm

Isn't that amazing that she was able to find that awesome dude. So glad that many were there to help her. And just look at the chain reaction her thankfulness started. Wonderful reminder to all of us to be thankful.
Thank you, Francene.

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Amy Bovaird link
10/20/2015 10:03:48 pm

What a wonderful story, Francene!
I like how she used it as a catalyst to connect so many people, and I like how you always give your take on these events you post.
Thankfulness and thanking someone is important because it shows their time and effort is valued. I am looking into way now to show my appreciation to the people who take me to my critique group each week by giving them a Starbucks gift card. :
Thanks, Francene.
Amy

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Angelica link
10/21/2015 09:09:57 am

Love this story! Imagine how much we could change in the world by doing what we know in our hearts to be right. Bravo!

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Shannon Seek link
10/21/2015 10:49:42 am

Lovely! I've never like riding the underground and as a result had a huge cab allowance in London.

Being a single woman anywhere means you've got to rely on the help of others. I love thanking people. And, I find it odd when people don't thank or think to thank more frankly!

Great one, Francene!

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